-TPE vs APE vs D/s-

i read an interesting post the other day on D's blod about how a slave is nothing in the eyes of her Owner other then property. i may have gotten the exact wording wrong however that seemed to be the gist of what had D all in a tizzy. Cant say as i blame her as that is quite untrue when you are involved in a true D/s or M/s relationship. A slave is the Dominants property yes, but she is so much more then that as well. Property is a chair, house or car. If you are treated as such then it is my opinion that you are not in a true BDSM relationship but rather one based on abuse and misconception. But thats just me. Perhaps that works for you.

TPE or Total Power Exchange is a relative term these days. The submission of one's control to Another is a concensual and agreed upon contract between a Dominant and the slave/submissive who has chosen Him/Her. Hopefully that choice has been made based on compatibility of personality, values, beliefs and connection. Not on convenience or the idea that better this than no Owner at all. That is where abuse and damage can set in and good slaves are ruined. Or left with the view that BDSM is for the Dominants benefit only.

Another term used is APE or Absolute Power Exchange. The same as TPE and just as broadly defined. It depends on the situation and individuals involved as to what that exchange is and how deep it goes.

For myself i choose to be with Someone who i am not only growing to adore with my whole heart but am frighteningly close to thinking i will end up worshipping the very ground He walks on. As each day passes there is more and more in Him that i find that appeals to me. my sense of values and morals as well as connection and communication. He always wants to know what i am thinking. This to me does not speak of a Man who sees me as nothing more then property, but as a person's whom opinion and thoughts He values to have.

He is a Dominant in the true sense of the word. It isnt His actions that speak. It is the way He listens. To my needs, desires, fears and complexities. It tells me that He intends to look out for my best interests. After all, too many submissives, and sadly Dominants as well, seem to forget that it isnt the Dominant that takes control from the slave. It is the slave that constents and gives that control to the Dominant they have chosen to be their own. If i choose not to allow Armour to have that control, that is my choice to make and one i know He would accept. He may not like it but He would accept it. However that isnt the case. i will gladly give that control to Him. In effect transferring to Him the exchange of power over me and my life.

i know He values my view point and opinion to the point that if there was a major decision to be made in regards to our life it would be discussed with me. While He has the final word and makes the final decision, i know my thoughts and feelings would be taken into consideration and help guide His choice as to what would work best for us. That shows me His respect for me, as i respect Him as not only a Dominant but as a Man as well. i know in His eyes i am much more then just a slave. i am a woman with thoughts and feelings who will be His partner and companion for the rest of His life, if He will have me.

That in no way means He has the right to violate that trust. It is only because i trust in Him to keep me safe and happy that i allow that exchange to take place at all when the time is right. i know He would never see me as nothing more then property. If that were to ever become the case, then we had reached the end of our journey together.

Something tells me He and i will be having a very long and joyous journey together. One i look forward to.

On a last note; just because He might treat me like a piece of property now and again. In no way tells me that that is the only way He sees me. Every now and again i want to be treated that way. Helps right any unbalance in my slavery to Him and guides me right back to where i want to be. Knelt at His feet with His fist wrapped in my hair. Knowing i belong to Him, body, heart, mind and soul.

Until later,

Armour's brat

Posted at 3:23 PM

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